What is maturity? To me it is the ability to control our emotions and settle differences without leaving marks and traces of bad impacts on a relation... it is more like a synonym to patience.
Whenever there is a conflict or misunderstanding in a relation, there is always one factor that makes the difference and plays the make or break role it is carrying attitude….
At times I feel maturity is more like discovering our own selves within us… making us feel that we have earned more wisdom from our own experiences. It does happens many a times when we believe in someone so deeply misunderstandings arises …maturity comes in the picture when we don’t have to feel for it…… some mis understandings are needed for good understanding.
Life throws more challenges on us that we anticipate but it’s or own perseverance, our ability to sweat out a situation and strengthening our capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or feeling shattered from within
I guess maturity does not come with age…. It comes from experiences it is a more like humbleness…empowering us enough to say, "I was wrong." And, when right, we as the mature person need not endorse our satisfaction of saying, "I told you so."
Maturity is the ability to make a decision and stand by it. It means dependability, keeping one's word, coming through in a crisis. The immature are masters of the alibi... that... is... they will end up explaining situations to safeguard their fragile ego… mentally they are confused and disorganized in their thoughts more like they are lost in the dark corridors of their minds trying to collect all possibilities to feel empowered and overcome the self guilt. Immaturity escorts a person nowhere but to a maze of broken promises and lost trusts….
In short, Maturity to me ,is a the art of living in peace where we don’t have to change, and having the courage to change and win back the situation if it has raised from the challenges… it is more like attaining the wisdom to know the difference between the two ( maturity and immaturity )
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Friday, May 8, 2009
Meditation: a gateway - to Nirvana
Ever imagined sitting by a quietly flowing stream… in the lap of Nature where life is green and sunny…. amazing isn’t it….. ?
Incredibly blessed with exquisiteness, fabricated with repetition of the gushing sound of water falls, engulfing the ambiance as if Nature has woven a song of its own….
I guess it all comes back on us if we want to sit on the rocks and let the sights and sounds of the flowing water make a way to our soul and bring out inner peace or just pass it on prioritizing the reasons for its ignorance
Funny isn’t it when Nature silently sings songs for us, never banking on our attention and yet never intrudes to the decisions we take in our lives….
For different people there can be many ways to meditate ourselves…
But the bottled up idea is how one can apply the effort in a direction opposite to what we are used to and our "effort" must be to relax ever more deeply.
Facing the daily odds of life where my life is all tied up with the hours of the clock a kind of race against time….I do urge to seek refuge where I can diffuse my soul with the vibes…..
For me, Music is my refuge where I can crawl into the space between the notes and become the part of the melody. It lets me in fabricating the silence where these notes are woven and yes it does heal my shattered soul…..
The best part about meditating myself is when I have my soul reflector…. someone whom I am in tuned with and share these internalize energies with…...
There is nothing more one can feel when you bring happiness in another soul where a tremendous flow of energy is awakened….
All of the concerns, problems and projects, which had filled our mind to bursting capacity begin to disappear.
There is nothing to try to figure out now, nothing to decide.
The lyrics silently console you with their perfect peace and harmony.
You feel somehow sedated, as if the forces of nature have conspired to put you at siesta - to put you at ease.
There is nothing to do, nowhere to go and nothing to think of. All I feel is to lie back and absorb the peaceful vibrations which flow into every part of my being, whispering,
«be at peace, relax my friend, all is well now».
The peace and security of being in the womb of melody allows us to surrender to the moment and we become a receptor to anything any challenge we let our thoughts and feelings…..It is as if the door of our mind has been opened and all of those conversations, actions and perceptions lying unresolved, floating at various depths in the sea of the mind begin to glide….
To me Music expresses my feelings and thoughts, without language; it was below and before speech, and it is above and beyond all words as if the composer has taken the colours of nature and pen pictured the portrait on the silence.
Incredibly blessed with exquisiteness, fabricated with repetition of the gushing sound of water falls, engulfing the ambiance as if Nature has woven a song of its own….
I guess it all comes back on us if we want to sit on the rocks and let the sights and sounds of the flowing water make a way to our soul and bring out inner peace or just pass it on prioritizing the reasons for its ignorance
Funny isn’t it when Nature silently sings songs for us, never banking on our attention and yet never intrudes to the decisions we take in our lives….
For different people there can be many ways to meditate ourselves…
But the bottled up idea is how one can apply the effort in a direction opposite to what we are used to and our "effort" must be to relax ever more deeply.
Facing the daily odds of life where my life is all tied up with the hours of the clock a kind of race against time….I do urge to seek refuge where I can diffuse my soul with the vibes…..
For me, Music is my refuge where I can crawl into the space between the notes and become the part of the melody. It lets me in fabricating the silence where these notes are woven and yes it does heal my shattered soul…..
The best part about meditating myself is when I have my soul reflector…. someone whom I am in tuned with and share these internalize energies with…...
There is nothing more one can feel when you bring happiness in another soul where a tremendous flow of energy is awakened….
All of the concerns, problems and projects, which had filled our mind to bursting capacity begin to disappear.
There is nothing to try to figure out now, nothing to decide.
The lyrics silently console you with their perfect peace and harmony.
You feel somehow sedated, as if the forces of nature have conspired to put you at siesta - to put you at ease.
There is nothing to do, nowhere to go and nothing to think of. All I feel is to lie back and absorb the peaceful vibrations which flow into every part of my being, whispering,
«be at peace, relax my friend, all is well now».
The peace and security of being in the womb of melody allows us to surrender to the moment and we become a receptor to anything any challenge we let our thoughts and feelings…..It is as if the door of our mind has been opened and all of those conversations, actions and perceptions lying unresolved, floating at various depths in the sea of the mind begin to glide….
To me Music expresses my feelings and thoughts, without language; it was below and before speech, and it is above and beyond all words as if the composer has taken the colours of nature and pen pictured the portrait on the silence.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Each day is a one-time offer.
There are times we hear voices. Not the kind that comes from an unbalanced mind — just the opposite, because these voices come with clarity, and that disturbs us the most.
Truth never seems to be an issue for us. It’s just that we become curious, and often criticized by our own conscience for trying to make sense of the senseless.
Is it the stress from the uncertainties which forces some sort of break with reality?
Yet it appears possible. On the outside, our world at times seems in turmoil. It has always been easy to fall apart, but instead, we do tend to try to do the opposite yes, pulling everything together.
Facing our own mortality forces us to prioritize reasons, reasons which can give us all the energies to stand steadfast bound with the bricks of concrete trust and hope.
We do hear vibes, nothing audible, but it is always very clear and very powerful, and there are never any mistakes in the message: Life isn’t just about us; it actually involves everyone else.
And our world begins to shift towards a more universal consciousness. We tend to learn that in life, there are no bad experiences, only lessons. It’s easy to get caught up in a crisis, but we’re only watching the ball, and missing the game.
Shifting our focus beyond the obvious is the real game and it is somehow all about learning how to play.
The tougher question lies beneath the surface: if we didn’t survive and endure from the battles which are first won or lost in our minds, would our lives have everything we’ve always wanted in it to be?
Would there be apologies left unsaid? Forgiveness denied? Had we done everything we could to leave the world a little better than it was before we got here?
Living each day like it’s our last is like climbing the tallest mountain in the world. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to look down from the top, just being able to see it differently everyday makes every second priceless and every step well worth the trip…..
We didn’t really give this a thought but our pronominal experiences and prenominal uncertainties change everything.Its not the answer. its the question.
Truth never seems to be an issue for us. It’s just that we become curious, and often criticized by our own conscience for trying to make sense of the senseless.
Is it the stress from the uncertainties which forces some sort of break with reality?
Yet it appears possible. On the outside, our world at times seems in turmoil. It has always been easy to fall apart, but instead, we do tend to try to do the opposite yes, pulling everything together.
Facing our own mortality forces us to prioritize reasons, reasons which can give us all the energies to stand steadfast bound with the bricks of concrete trust and hope.
We do hear vibes, nothing audible, but it is always very clear and very powerful, and there are never any mistakes in the message: Life isn’t just about us; it actually involves everyone else.
And our world begins to shift towards a more universal consciousness. We tend to learn that in life, there are no bad experiences, only lessons. It’s easy to get caught up in a crisis, but we’re only watching the ball, and missing the game.
Shifting our focus beyond the obvious is the real game and it is somehow all about learning how to play.
The tougher question lies beneath the surface: if we didn’t survive and endure from the battles which are first won or lost in our minds, would our lives have everything we’ve always wanted in it to be?
Would there be apologies left unsaid? Forgiveness denied? Had we done everything we could to leave the world a little better than it was before we got here?
Living each day like it’s our last is like climbing the tallest mountain in the world. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to look down from the top, just being able to see it differently everyday makes every second priceless and every step well worth the trip…..
We didn’t really give this a thought but our pronominal experiences and prenominal uncertainties change everything.Its not the answer. its the question.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Benevolent Emotion: a Smile
In life, it's great when you get to come through for someone…..
Of course, it still doesn't always work out the way you'd hope…… In the end, you learn to treasure the times when things go your way……Even if happiness forgets you a little bit…….you never completely forget about it…
I guess the greatest happiness lies in being there for the ones you love when they don't. And most importantly, you learn to accept that some things are out of your hands.
But still, with so much of life left up to chance, you can't help but look back and wonder.... What if things had been different...?
Some people say everything comes down to luck.... What I believe is that the most minor event -- even a smile given to a stranger ….. can affect everything. Because once that seemingly insignificant event happens.... It sets everything else in motion. You never know it might be the only sunshine he sees all day and insignificant events can lead to significant events……….
In life, it's hard to avoid letting people down. Whether it's someone you made a promise to... ...or someone you love... ...or even letting down someone you barely knew at all.
In the end, it's the "what ifs" that hurt the most. Like, what if things had gone a little differently?...... in such a way ……. that you are bound to believe ….. it’s just not the fate but it’s the coincidence….. One of Nature’s ways of making a way for you yet remaining anonymous…………
Me, I don't believe in fate. I believe we have more control than we think, and that every action has a reaction. After all.... actions are the best interpretations of our thoughts…I guess its all about trusting the moment when you couple the idea with action otherwise it will never get any bigger than the brain cell it has occupied.….
We being humans, suddenly go into quick reverse as the day's events are wound back… when having memories as our reserves……it helps in diffusing facts and the best part is it always builds around the events unnoticed all the time…....
The most minor event -- even a smile -- can change everything…….. Anything at all……. Like a radiance in the window of your face that tells people that you’re home….. Something unbreakable which can mend broken hearts… or may be they are the kisses of your soul …….But it again depends ….. because these smiles are creating a beautiful past which is never dead, it will never be past …..Sometimes for the better……… Even if it doesn't seem like it at first……....
Of course, it still doesn't always work out the way you'd hope…… In the end, you learn to treasure the times when things go your way……Even if happiness forgets you a little bit…….you never completely forget about it…
I guess the greatest happiness lies in being there for the ones you love when they don't. And most importantly, you learn to accept that some things are out of your hands.
But still, with so much of life left up to chance, you can't help but look back and wonder.... What if things had been different...?
Some people say everything comes down to luck.... What I believe is that the most minor event -- even a smile given to a stranger ….. can affect everything. Because once that seemingly insignificant event happens.... It sets everything else in motion. You never know it might be the only sunshine he sees all day and insignificant events can lead to significant events……….
In life, it's hard to avoid letting people down. Whether it's someone you made a promise to... ...or someone you love... ...or even letting down someone you barely knew at all.
In the end, it's the "what ifs" that hurt the most. Like, what if things had gone a little differently?...... in such a way ……. that you are bound to believe ….. it’s just not the fate but it’s the coincidence….. One of Nature’s ways of making a way for you yet remaining anonymous…………
Me, I don't believe in fate. I believe we have more control than we think, and that every action has a reaction. After all.... actions are the best interpretations of our thoughts…I guess its all about trusting the moment when you couple the idea with action otherwise it will never get any bigger than the brain cell it has occupied.….
We being humans, suddenly go into quick reverse as the day's events are wound back… when having memories as our reserves……it helps in diffusing facts and the best part is it always builds around the events unnoticed all the time…....
The most minor event -- even a smile -- can change everything…….. Anything at all……. Like a radiance in the window of your face that tells people that you’re home….. Something unbreakable which can mend broken hearts… or may be they are the kisses of your soul …….But it again depends ….. because these smiles are creating a beautiful past which is never dead, it will never be past …..Sometimes for the better……… Even if it doesn't seem like it at first……....
Saturday, January 17, 2009
What are we willing to risk ?????
I guess it all comes down to what we're willing to risk. For some of us, it's our feelings.... For others, it's our future....
For me, it was taking a risk, period. Even if that means starting with my very first step.
For me making a decision implies that there are alternative choices to be considered, and in such a case I want not only to identify as many of these alternatives as possible but to choose the one that has the highest probability of success or effectiveness and best fits with my goals, desires, lifestyle, values, and so on………
When is it right to be sensible in daily life? At what time do I know when change is necessary to progress in the direction I need to go in?.... am I holding back a lot or its just that I am not willing to take one risk which can take me somewhere I might get the happiness I duely deserve....
Sometimes I feel being reasonable in my actions and decision making means I am experiencing the present I live everyday. I guess its low risk because it is simply continuance, doing what I have always done the way I have always done it.
I guess my life has become stagnant because...... Life……..its all about decisions and consequences or reactions to situations I am facing today ….For better or worse, I guess my life is based off of the decisions I made yesterday and in the past.
If my decisions have created a better day for me today, then I CONGRATULATE my self for that and APPLAUD my success!
If not, then without a decision today to change tomorrow will be the same as today and yesterday.
To wrap the crap I guess ACTION is required. Any situation I face with today will not change unless I change what I am doing NOW for tomorrow!
For me, it was taking a risk, period. Even if that means starting with my very first step.
For me making a decision implies that there are alternative choices to be considered, and in such a case I want not only to identify as many of these alternatives as possible but to choose the one that has the highest probability of success or effectiveness and best fits with my goals, desires, lifestyle, values, and so on………
When is it right to be sensible in daily life? At what time do I know when change is necessary to progress in the direction I need to go in?.... am I holding back a lot or its just that I am not willing to take one risk which can take me somewhere I might get the happiness I duely deserve....
Sometimes I feel being reasonable in my actions and decision making means I am experiencing the present I live everyday. I guess its low risk because it is simply continuance, doing what I have always done the way I have always done it.
I guess my life has become stagnant because...... Life……..its all about decisions and consequences or reactions to situations I am facing today ….For better or worse, I guess my life is based off of the decisions I made yesterday and in the past.
If my decisions have created a better day for me today, then I CONGRATULATE my self for that and APPLAUD my success!
If not, then without a decision today to change tomorrow will be the same as today and yesterday.
To wrap the crap I guess ACTION is required. Any situation I face with today will not change unless I change what I am doing NOW for tomorrow!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Seven Deadly Sins...
| Greed: | Very Low | |
| Gluttony: | Low | |
| Wrath: | Very Low | |
| Sloth: | Low | |
| Envy: | Low | |
| Lust: | Low | |
| Pride: | Medium |
Take the Seven Deadly Sins Quiz
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Philosophy about life....
"It's my life"…No mortal has a right to control it ….as I have only one chance to live so,
i don’t allow anybody to live my life……avail your life & live it with success & happiness …….it does not matter how long you live,,,,,,,,but more important is that how you live?
if you live happy, you will die gladly.,,,,,,live & let live others.
it's really indecent to interfere on other's life.
be mature, descent, practical & serious about life's theory.
have a decent fun in life so you will control your boredom but,
with sense that life is not fun!
i don’t allow anybody to live my life……avail your life & live it with success & happiness …….it does not matter how long you live,,,,,,,,but more important is that how you live?
if you live happy, you will die gladly.,,,,,,live & let live others.
it's really indecent to interfere on other's life.
be mature, descent, practical & serious about life's theory.
have a decent fun in life so you will control your boredom but,
with sense that life is not fun!
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